Mothers- October 14, 2012
My handsome Guest Blogger returns! My husband Greyson is writing for his mother’s birthday today. I’m very blessed to have a mother-in-law like Dottie. She is a doll who makes life more fun with her sharp wit and generous hospitality. Oh, and Greyson acts just. like. his. mama. Seriously. All the funny things I love about him, he got from her. Happy Birthday Dottie!
A couple weeks ago, I wrote a tribute to my dad for his 65th birthday.
Today, it is time to honor my mom. Yep, my parents were born 10 days apart.
In the post about my father, I described our relationship and the closeness we’ve always shared.
However, to be honest, I am more like my mother than my father. First off, I look more like my mom’s side of the family. My sisters look like my dad’s side of the family. But more than anything, I share many of my mom’s mannerisms.
I didn’t really realize this until I married Amy. She points it out often. Especially, since we’ve hadCharlotte.
There is one similarity I’m especially proud of. My mom has a terrific way of listening to you and making you feel like what you are saying is valuable. And she does this just as well with kids as she does with adults.
I admired how she is able to have very thoughtful conversations with my 6 year old niece Hollin. Hollin often wants to go to DeeDee (that is what all of the grandchildren call my mom), to have a “serious” talk.
Sometimes this includes showing Deedee a picture or some other achievement. DeeDee goes beyond the usual praise and finds a particular detail….perhaps the use of a certain color in a picture, to highlight and discuss.
It is never condescending, and always sincere. It makes you feel special and it makes you want to share more.
I find that I do this with Charlotte. Certainly, she is my little girl, and there is time for snuggling, and being silly. ButCharlottehas a real intensity to her. She has tremendous focus. And she wants to be taken seriously. To her, putting her dolls or stuffedSesame Streetcharacters to bed is very real.
I talk to her about it like she is a person, not my baby girl. As her speech and vocabulary continues to grow, I’m noticing that it is at these times, she doesn’t want to share a simple pharse like “My baby”, but rather string together many words….some of which are new and hard to understand, but she is comfortable and engaged.
She wants to share more, and it makes me glad to be like my mom.
Thanks DeeDee, and Happy Birthday.
DeeDee with our niece, Hollin in 2010 showing us how fun life can be.