Weaning woes and low blows- November 29, 2011
Hey there. Yeah, I’m talking to you, the mothers of other one-year-olds, mothers who’ve also been through the ups and downs of past year as a newbie parent. I thought we had an understanding and a circle of support going on.
I guess I was wrong.
I’ve seen you exchange glances and heard your judgmental tones when you ask about breastfeeding. You asked the other day how it was going weaning my baby off a bottle.
Me: “Great. I don’t give her a bottle at all anymore. She just nurses once a day. I don’t have to pump anymore. That a relief! Ha! How about you?”
::unnecessary awkward pause::
You: ”Oh, you’re still breastfeeding? She’s one. How long are you going to do that?”
::This is when you gave “that look” to another mother. Thanks. That didn’t make me feel at all like an inadequate freak::
Me: ”Oh, yeah, well I wanted to do it for the first year. We’re working on weaning.”
I don’t think one year is “extended breastfeeding”. Even if I was choosing to do that, what’s it to you? It’s not really your business.
Do you remember all the stress, frustration, and tears you experienced when you were trying to breastfeed? Did you ever stop to think that I may be experiencing those same feelings now as I’m trying to wean? I never once made you feel bad for feeding your baby formula. I feel terrible for moms who’ve been made to feel inadequate because they don’t/can’t breastfeed. Guess what? It goes both ways. I even blogged in defense
of baby-feeding choice.
We’re just one year into this, ladies. Let’s support each other. We’re going to be making lots of different choices over the years.